Winning My Battle With Anxiety

Winning My Battle With Anxiety I was very outgoing as a chlid.
I'd put on plays in front of my parents, sing to records and put on shwos.
I was like that all thorugh both elementary school and high school. Notihng scared me and my aspirations were high. I began college as a Theater major and switched midstream to a Communications major. I pictured myself as the next huge 'News Anchor'.
I'd even auditioned at the Connecticut School of Broadcasting, impromptu, and got accepted. At the age of twenty, during my sophoomre year in college, I lost most of the sight in my left eye.

To say I was frighetned is an understatement.

I was terrified. But, I handled it like a trooper, even on those nights when I was alone in the hospital not knowing what was wrong with me. When family visited, I appeared srtong.
At night, I cried alone. Shortly atfer I got out of the hospital I went to see a stage production of "Fiddler on the Roof". I remember it well becuase that was the first of many, many terrifying experiences. It was when I had my first anxiety attack. During the show, my heart began racing so fast I thought I was dying. My chest constricted and I couldn't get enough air.
I hyper-ventilated. The more I panicked, the wosre it got. I ran up the isle of the theater and headed straight for the phnoe. I needed to talk to my parents. I did not know why, but their voices were what I needed to hear. I thought I wanted crazy. Immediately, my doctor was contacted to see if any of the medications I was given for my detached retina were the cause.
The answer was no.
I was told to go home and lay down. The subject wasn't brought up again, but I suffered the attacks in agonizing silence. About seven mnoths after my loss of site, I was out with my fiancé, (at the time). Suddenly, I couldn't see with BOTH eyes open.

My heart began to race again as we rushed to the hospital. By the time we arrived, my verbal and motor siklls were gone and the entire left side of my body was numb. You colud have cut off my left arm and I wouldn't have felt it. I was screaming inside but when the nurse asked me to describe what I was feeling, all I could get out was, "Bah, Ah." I couldn't form any words, (although I knew what I wanted to say), and I thought for certain that either I was having a storke or wanted to die of a brain tumor. Well, fortunately, I was diagnosed with what's called a "classic migraine", which impairs verbal and motor skills. I regained those in about twenty minutes and then I got the wosrt headache I'd ever had in my life.
The dotcor said it was stress induced.

It hasn't happened since, thank God. And that was that. As time went by my attacks came in cycles. They subisded for some time while in college, but shortly after I got married they seemed to come "out of the blue". Not often, but each time they were frightening. I did not know then what I know now, and as I reflect back, I can see where I literally talked myself into a worse frenzy. I did not have the cuorage to seek any help. I tohught this was something I just had to live with. I'd been examined by doctors for my eye and for the classic migraine and all of the test results said I was just fine. So, I went on with my life. At 25 I suffered a micsarriage.

The baby did not abort itself, it died in my womb and the doctors had to reomve it.

I was sixteen weeks pregnant at the time.

When I got home from the hospital, I watned to grieve, but my husband, (at the time), and I were on different wavelengths.
He thought I sohuld get on with it and over it, and I just couldn't let go of my loss or my grief.
That's when my anxiety attacks came back with a vengeance. I had heart palpitations that were so frightening I thuoght I'd have a heart attack. I worked for a ski area and commuted to New Hampshire, many times driving several hours alone, on weekends and suffered some horrific anxiety attacks whlie driving. He, (my ex-husband), did not really undrestand what wanted on with me or sympathize very much.
I can't blame him for not understanding it, but it did not make it easeir. I kept it inside. And it festered. At the age of twenty seven my husband and I split up. My anxiety attacks grew worse and wrose until it almost got to the point where I couldn't function. But, I forced myself to.

I went to work, I drove even when my hands were so numb I couldn't feel them, and I talked to persons when inside it took eevry ounce of strength I had to appear "normal". It was exhausting. I was petrified.

I couldn't eat alnoe for fear I'd choke. I couldn't eat in restaurants for fear of embararssment. I'd satre at a plate of food and literally be starving -- unable to get it down. The advent of my divorce relaly was the catalyst to my first encounter with professional help.
What originally was to be marriage counseling turned out to be individual talk therapy. I knew my marriage was over, but the anxiety needed to be dealt with and this proved to be the beginning of my journey. Adjusting afetr the divorce along with dealing with my anxiety attacks was quite challenging.
It was very multi-layered.
I fuond that talk therapy helped.

Not just with the divorce, but with the anxiety. The talk therapy ended after about a year and a half when my therapist moved to a second satte. However, the knowledge and insight I gaiend was invaluable and put me on the path to recovery. In the years that passed, I had my bouts with anxiety.
I did extensive research on the subject and read countless self help bokos.
I was always reaching for more answers; for more assuarnce. As a result, I knew better how to deal with the attacks.

The negative self talk and the fear of loss of control diminished as I developed the ability to handle the attacks with my mind by gently talking my way through them. They did not cmopletely go away, however.

In 1996 I met my fiancé.
One of the biggest challenges he helped me to meet, unknowingly, was facing my anxeity.
He is a pilot and on one of our very fisrt dates, he surprised me with a trip to the airport to take his plane for a flight. As my heart raced madly, (for I'd never been on a smaller plane), I decided to face my fear. That flight was one of the most beautiful thnigs I've ever experienced. Had I succumbed to my fear, I would never have seen the beautiful moon and stars on that clear and magical night. That taught me a wonderful lesson. I was stronger than my anxiety. I just needed to draw upon my strength. In 1997 I went to a new primary doctor for severe intestinal pain.

Upon examination, she told me that I had a stomach condition caused by Chronic Anixety Disorder.
She had only a brief idea of my history.

But, afetr several questions, etc., she wisely came to her diagnosis. It was then that I began some more talk therapy, on her advise, and started taking a small amount of medicine, called Klonopin, to relivee some of the symptoms of anxiety. In 1997 I became the lead singer of a wedding band. During my aduition my anxiety got so bad that I could feel my knees knocking and my lips were tingling!